Today on Lingholic we have Vancouver-based polyglot and language teacher Keith Swayne. Keith is an amazing person full of interesting stories, and in today’s post and interview, he will share with you what 20 years of language learning and teaching has taught him: that relationships matters. Keith’s powerful message may very well forever change the way you see language learning. Enjoy Keith’s article and the interview we recorded, and don’t forget to share this article and comment below.
Relationships and Languages
Even if you are motivated to become bilingual for the sake of your career, education or insatiable curiosity, you’ll still find that the greatest rewards of all are the personal relationships that a new language makes possible. Languages in themselves may be fascinating, but ultimately they are only a way of communicating with the fascinating people who speak them. Languages are bridges between people.
Trevor is an ESL (English as a Second Language) teacher in Canada. He says, “Often students just want to learn English so they can make more money in their home country. It’s tough, because that usually isn’t a powerful enough motivation.” To achieve spoken proficiency, even the drive to increase earning potential is inadequate for most people. Trevor feels that the “desire for a personal relationship with speakers of the target language is the only incentive which is strong enough to sustain the progress of a language student.”
The largest group of successful language learners are people who have done it for love — not the love of languages, but the love of people. This love takes different forms.
Sometimes it’s romance. A man from California wrote me, “I’m learning Russian. My wife is Russian and she learned English to function in my world; I am learning Russian to function in hers. Relationships are the most important motivators.”
Stacey, a University of Texas student, picked up Spanish when she dated a Venezuelan. “My speaking ability increased to near native fluency during the year and a half I dated him.” He’s gone, but Stacey’s Spanish isn’t.
It was in the kitchen of an Israeli kibbutz that Margo picked up Hebrew. She’s Canadian, with no ethnic connection to Israel, and says she didn’t even know how to say “Shalom!” (meaning “Hello!”) properly when she arrived for her four-and-a-half year visit. She quickly developed a deep affection for the culture and people of Israel. It was the desire to communicate with these people that made the language come easily. While she chopped vegetables, she would ask the other kitchen workers how to say new things in Hebrew. Every day, chatting while she worked, her proficiency improved.
Now Margo is living in Canada again, but speaks Hebrew well. When she returned home, she missed Israel a lot and was delighted when she finally met an elderly Hebrew-speaking couple. “I was so glad to hear the language spoken again! When I met my Israeli friends, I was hoping to practice my Hebrew, but over the years it became a weekly visit.” Margo also speaks German and Spanish, and says, “If people can even see that you’re trying, they’ll appreciate it, and will help you learn.”
Many people learn the languages of their family’s ethnic roots. A love for family and a desire to participate in the heritage culture is strong fuel for a language student. Terence, a mechanical engineer in California, jokes, “One day I looked in the mirror and noticed that I look Chinese.” For the first time in his life, he began to take a serious interest in exploring the rich culture of his forefathers. “I thought it would make sense to learn my ancestral language. I got some textbooks and picked it up on my own, practicing with every Chinese person I could find.”
Kiyan says, “When I speak Persian, I feel like part of the clan. The language is an essential part of family functions and dealings with my relatives. It might be simply psychological, but I just can’t think the Persian way in English.”
Missionaries and foreign relief workers are often highly successful at language acquisition because they are also motivated by a love for people and a desire to do good, to help someone, to demonstrate love in action. Without an ability to communicate in the local language, the range of ways you can help the community is greatly restricted.
Kim felt the relief of making a breakthrough in Spanish after living in Guatemala for a year. He hadn’t made much progress, even though he’d studied hard in traditional language classes. “Then,” he says, “one day something clicked in my head. I was asked to pray out loud for a group of men gathered at a training workshop. When I just took the risk and opened my mouth, I suddenly found I could speak Spanish. I started that day and I’ve been speaking ever since.” The ability to talk and work with the local people set Kim free for the work he longed to do. He was able to establish a school for disadvantaged children, coordinate building projects in poverty stricken areas and serve as a go-between for churches in many parts of Central America and North America.
A new language will be your bridge to other people. As soon as you get your first taste of what it’s like to talk with someone in another language, your progress will be faster and the work will seem lighter. In fact, that’s why speaking to learn works better that learning to speak. The rewards are obvious and almost immediate. It’s just more fun to talk with people than it is to write out translation exercises. And because it’s fun, you can’t quit. So you keep using your new language, getting better at it day by day.
A multilingual friend told me, “The world is like a beautiful castle. People who speak only one language spend their whole lives in just one room.” I believe that there are wonderful people in every room of the castle, and they will ultimately be the best reason to explore other langauges.
Questions I asked Keith
- Keith, could you introduce yourself a bit more in details and give us a brief overview of your language learning and teaching philosophy? (0:57)
- You see language learning as a social experience. What exactly do you mean by this, and how can your approach help others acquire foreign languages more easily? (4:59)
- You’ve learned over 7 languages over the past 2 decades; what are some of the key lessons and nuggets of wisdom that you’ve managed to dig from that experience? (9:12)
- Before we conclude, are there any final words that you’d like to share with us? And for people eager to learn more about you, is there a place where they can find you? (13:48)